Making erotic art is important to me. It’s something that usually does me more good than harm. Of course I understand that putting this kind of material on the internet opens up doors for sexual harassment. I am aware that in putting my naked body on the internet, I can’t control what people do. I am tired of having to set these boundaries over and over again so I’ve made them permanent. I should not have to consider giving up a limb of my art practice because some people cannot bring themselves to respect me. These are my boundaries. If you don’t respect them, you’re not welcome in my life. I shouldn’t have to field sexual harassment just because I like to get naked. You have consent to look at my body as much as you want but:
1. Do not message me to tell me that you’re jerking off to my photos. This is sexual harassment. I don’t care if you jerk off to my photos, but unless you and I have a sexual relationship, you need to understand that it has nothing to do with me and I don’t want to be involved.
2. Understand that I am an intuitive person and 9/10 I can tell what someone’s intentions are and how they feel about me. You’re not being sneaky when you’re trying to use my emotional vulnerability to try and develop a sexual relationship with me. This behaviour is more transparent than you think it is. Don’t do it. It’s not going to get you anywhere.
3. Unless we are in a sexual relationship, I do not under any circumstances want to know what you think about my tits or any other part of my body.
4. Understand that my erotic art is not a personalized nude. I didn’t make it for you. It’s a tool of liberation for me as a survivor.
5. Don’t make assumptions about my sex life. No I don’t “fuck everyone.” You are not entitled to my body. Do not solicit me for sex, especially if we don’t even know each other. You not being able to handle seeing a breast without reducing that person to an object is your own shortcoming. Sorry about your two brain cells!
6. If you want to know if something is okay, ASK IF IT’S OKAY. Don’t “test the water” unless you want me to throw up in your eye.
7. All of my work is intentionally self-shot. No, I don’t want to come to your basement photography studio and take my clothes off and asking more than once is definitely not going to change my mind. 
8. I am not a sex therapist. Don’t send me unsolicited messages asking me for advice on your sex life or telling me details about it without asking me first.
9. CONSENT IS ONGOING, INFORMATIVE AND ENTHUSIASTIC. Consent cannot be obtained from a two-dimensional image. You being able to see my body does not mean you have consent to touch me.
10. Do not screenshot my photos and send them to me to tell me they’re hot. Do not screenshot or save my photos at all, actually. Unless we are in a sexual relationship, I don’t want you to keep copies of my nude photos outside of where I have made them publicly available. If you want to keep them, you can fucking pay me.
11. Be cognizant of the fact that I am a human being. I am not an object. I have PTSD. Sexually harassing me puts me in a dangerous place mentally. You are a spectator. No part of my body stops belonging to me when I share it online.
12. If you feel the need to argue any of these boundaries, think any of them are harsh or unfair, go see a therapist.
13. If you believe that my sharing of erotic art means I am asking for this kind of treatment, you are a misogynist and you have work to do. I hope you get better.

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